I’m busy reading a little book called ‘Show your work’ by Austin Kleon. It was recommended by Derek Sivers on his invaluable podcast episode with Tim Ferriss. It’s a super quick read and I’m not even done yet, but what I read about today really resonated.
First thing: Share what you learn. I’ve always been an avid believer of this, but he puts it so eloquently and really makes the case clear for any doubters out there.
Annie Dillard said, “The impulse to keep to yourself what you have learned is not only shameful, it is destructive. Anything you do not give freely and abundantly becomes lost to you. You open your safe and find ashes.”
Couldn’t agree more.
Share your work, share what you’re learning, share what you’re teaching. We all know that the more we teach, the more we understand that topic.
Second thing: Leave the vampires behind.
If someone sucks the energy out of you, do whatever you can to provide them with what help you can, and then go. There’s no point trying to change that person, and less point to you trying to suck the energy you’re losing back in, like trying to squeeze back sand falling out your hand. It ain’t gonna work. Sounds harsh, but if you’re on a mission in this life, which you should be, then focus.
Derek Sivers (again!) famously advises: “Whatever excites you, go do it. Whatever drains you, stop doing it.” Check out his brilliant piece on the topic.
I know it sounds over-simplified. But I promise you that one day you will, as if all of a sudden, realise precisely how much control you do in fact have over your time. That talk you felt obliged to go to where your presence won’t actually be missed? Just leave it. That party you said you ‘might make’? Las it. (Cape Tonian for ‘leave it the hell alone, it ain’t worth it.’)
And yes, I’m still learning that more each day. And in case it wasn’t obvious, vampires take the form of relationships, jobs (bills, I know I know…when you figure that one out, SHARE HOW please!), people, animals, actual vampires, zombies (probably), trips, parties…you get the idea.
Also, let’s try not be a vampire.